Don’t bring Her to Your Mess
A guy approaches me and tells me he is ready to get married. He was to propose marriage to his girlfriend in a few weeks time. I ask him how he was in four areas:
4. in Leadership?
After those questions where his answers are almost NO – he still decides to push thru. Men, you have to count the cost before entering into this thing called marriage because it takes more than love, it requires planning.
Proverbs 14:4 Where there are no oxen, the manger is empty, but from the strength of an ox come abundant harvests.
What do ox do? They crap. The job of the man is to clean the manger because the manger is full of ox’s crap. Men we are destined to clean the crap and deal with more OX. Your business is an OX, your future wife is an OX, your kids are OXENS, your ministry is an OX. And if you can’t keep the manger manageable don’t add more OX to the barn. Your girl doesn’t deserve CRAP.
Fix your walk with God, read your Bible, find a job, learn how to be more sensitive to the needs of the opposite sex, learn how not to be sensitive when corrected, be emotionally ready, learn and add leadership experiences while you are still single. If you can’t – then give the girl a break – don’t bring her to your mess.