The Meaning of Masculinity
I read John Piper’s book “What’s the Difference” where he defined masculinity as:
“AT THE HEART OF MATURE MASCULINITY IS A SENSE OF BENEVOLENT RESPONSIBILITY TO LEAD, PROVIDE FOR AND PROTECT WOMEN IN WAYS APPROPRIATE TO A MAN’S DIFFERING RELATIONSHIPS.”
I remember talking to a couple and the woman was complaining that she never felt like the man had that sense of benevolent responsibility – it is as if he needs prodding and pushing to fulfill his role. As biblical men, we need to have that sense of benevolent responsibility. We take ownership of the responsibility. We don’t need our wife to remind us. We do it.
A married man in church I was having coffee with was sharing how he almost lost his wife. It was during a tough season in his life when he was jobless. He was so depressed that all he did all day was watch TV. One day the wife said, I’ll just go find work. That moment hit him. Why is my wife trying to be responsible for the responsibility given to me. Since that day, he has taken benevolent responsibility to lead and provide for his family. He is now one of our leaders in church.
I love the word BENEVOLENT RESPONSIBILITY because it rules out an authoritarian leadership. There is tenderness and masculinity in the word.
Matt. 7:12 So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.
and the word responsibility brings with it a sense of calling, obligation and charge for men to do what they are supposed to do.
Men, I encourage you to embrace this benevolent responsibility to lead and provide according to the power that is found in Christ.