Reverse Engineering your Life
Had a talk with some single men tonight on reverse engineering your life. Reverse engineering simply means planning forward and live it backwards. Stephen Covey coined it as beginning with the end in mind. I challenge the men to be prepared in 3 areas:
1. Spiritual Preparation
2. Leadership Preparation
3. Financial Preparation.
And I promise to post the questions to help them reverse engineer their dreams and vision for the future. This verse shows us why we need to plan.
1 Corinthians 9:24-27
Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last; but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not ﬁght like a man beating the air. No, I beat my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualiﬁed for the prize.
So here goes the long list of questions that could help you as a man.
How much will you weigh?
How much will you exercise?
What will have changed about your appearance?
How many hours of sleep will you get a night? (average should get 8 hrs, 5-6 hrs in reality)
What day do you Sabbath?
What will your vacations and holidays look like?
Where will you live?
What will you do?
How many kids do you want to have?
Where do you live? (What’s it going to take to get there?)
What do you want in your home? What do you need? Home office to be home with family…craft room for wife…community with other families…not isolated.
What kind of vehicle will you drive?
How long will your commute to work take?
What furniture and appliances will you have gotten rid of or acquired?
What is your job? What do you want to be doing? Find someone in the church to talk to about the ﬁeld you are interested in.
Actively pursue people that are doing what you want to be doing.
How much money do you make?
Marketplace & the Home –Double income–
How is your money spent, saved, invested, tithed?
What is your insurance? Health, life, dental…etc.
Are you like-minded?
How often would you pray together?
How can I better take care of you?
How many children will you have? (This affects where you live, how much you make, car, private schools, raise children)
How will they be educated? Public school, home school, private school?
What is your relationship like with each family member (mom, dad, brother, sister, grandparent)
If you extended family is close by, what are the boundaries?
How do they play into holidays, birthdays, and vacations?
Every time they ﬁght, do you have to be in the middle of it?
Who are your closest friends going to be?
Which people should you drop as friends?
Which friends should your spouse drop?
What things do you do with your friends?
What area have you studied deeply?
What books have you read?
Do you have a mentor?
Do you have a reading plan?
Listen to sermons, mp3s at least 30 minutes a day…
How are you building the Kingdom of God?
Are you doing the WORK that GOD called you to?
What are you doing in the church?
What do you have to change in yourself, ministry, and family to accomplish your goals?
What top 3 time, energy, and emotional drainers have you dropped?
What 3 changes in your life would make the biggest differences? (joining a gym, buying a house)
What 3 things do you need the most?
What obstacles are keeping you from living by your convictions?
Do you need counseling?
3 people really know you, 12 people you hang with…that’s it other than your family.
Is this person is a good investment?
Who are the most helpful people that you need to spend more time with?
Who do you need time with? A counselor, a mentor, a ﬁnancial planner, a teacher
What do you need? Work-out equipment, bed, a house, a car, furniture,
Make your schedule 24/7
When are you going to do anything/everything?
Can you do it?
At the end of your life – what do you want to be? What do you want your lineage to look like? What do you want? What does God want? Men we are to live our lives for the glory of God. We want to leave a Christ-like legacy and it takes a lot of planning and grace to do that
Questions post here were taken from the talk given at Mars Hill church.