A Perfect Marriage

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A Perfect Marriage

My guest blogger for today is Jun Gomez. Jun is a businessman and is happily married with 3 kids. His marriage is not perfect and it might never be. Jun shares his thoughts on a perfect marriage

My marriage is not perfect and I don’t want it to be perfect. Crazy me huh? One reason I don’t want it cause I know it doesn’t exist! At least among the living. But what I need is a happy marriage. When I’m happy, I have a clear mind able to think of the good and consider even the bad to be good. Besides the bible says “A cheerful heart is good medicine”(Proverbs 17:22).

Five things that I have learned from the bible and when I have put it into practice, my marriage has never been the same since. If you are also in dire need of happiness in your marriage or if you are planning to get married, you might want to take time to read this five important bible verses that teaches God’s standards for a happy marriage which will surely help you. You can read it for yourself in the bible but here is how I translated it to simple words.

As a husband:

1.   My wife is my primary responsibility.

To make her happy. To think of her needs more than mine. To consider her weaknesses. Protect her to the point of giving up my life for her. To love her first before loving myself.

Ephesians 5:25-33

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,  that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.  So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

2.   I am to love my wife even if she has done something hateful and that I should not retaliate.

I will still do good and will never be proud that I’m better than her for doing so. And that I will not use her mistakes against her.

Romans 12:9-12 Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good.  Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;  not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer;

Romans 12:21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

3.   I am to provide for my family.

For my faith in Christ in which I profess is of no value at all if I fail to provide for my wife and children.

1Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

4.   I should consider the interest of my wife and not abuse my authority as head of the house/family able to humble myself not thinking of my position as provider.

Philippians 2:3-8 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.  Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men.  And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.

5. I am accountable to God for all the careless words I have spoken to my wife which has damaged her emotionally and mentally.

Matthew 12:35-36 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things.But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.

Before I surrendered my life to Jesus, I had a worldly perspective on marriage, and my wrong principles on my marriage contributed to destroy my relationship with my wife. But when I learned the truth on marriage, our marriage changed course. Sally and I still argue, but since we are both aware of our duties and of the character we should possess as husband and wife, we always have a way out and our conflicts has become an ingredient for a better relationship.

My marriage is not perfect, but we are truly happily married. Thank you Lord Jesus for teaching me your ways.