How You Can Win over Impurity and Lust
“I’m Addicted to you Baby, You’re a Hard Habit to Breaaaak…”
I’m sure you’re all familiar with this antiquely remembered song as Peter Cetera of Chicago describes how he feels about a certain special someone. Funny how his lyrics then are the perfect personification of impurity.
In this generation and age, pornography, sexual immorality, adultery and lust has enslaved many, many men. Yes, even strong men of God. We live in a very sex saturated world that right now we are more surprised when a man says that he does not masturbate than when he says he does. It has grown into some sort of a norm.
“A man is enslaved to whatever he cannot part with that is less than himself” – George MacDonald
And isn’t that the right term? Enslavement? We have been plagued by this sin called impurity.
Why do we have to take impurity seriously?
Impurity is a very dangerous sin. It sucks the life out of you. Look at how our world has been plagued by impurity today. Broken marriages, broken hearts, insecurity, emotional instability, self-pity, selfishness, and the list goes on and on…
Take pornography for example. Do you know that marriages end up getting broken because of pornography? Yeah even when you watch it in your youth, it will affect your marriage. Why? Because young men now – when they get married, think that sex is supposed to be patterned in the pornographic videos they have watched. They think that their wives should perform sexually like how it’s done in the porn films.
And if their wives do not satisfy them or if they find out that their wives are not up to that level, they look for someone else who could. It is a sick, demented strategy of the Devil to bring down godliness in our world today.
“For lust is a shameful sin, a crime that should be punished. It is a devastating fire that destroys to hell. It will wipe out everything I own.” – Job 31:11-12
The thing about lust is that it is addicting as anything. In fact, that is why pornography is the number one (1) industry in the internet. Remember, the internet is the largest market since the beginning of time. Internet porn has grasped the hearts and wallets of so many people – especially men.
Impurity Works like a Habit
Let’s talk about habits. Do you have mannerisms? I know I do. One of my many mannerisms is to move my hands when I talk. As if I want to stress out what I want to say through acting it even if the person I’m talking with already gets my point. Some people get irritated by it because it grabs their attention and they are distracted from what I am trying to say.
I got this habit from teaching in small groups when I was young. It carried over to when I give talks and seminars about my business – which is internet marketing and SEO. And now it carried over even when I talk casually to another person. I’m now consciously trying to lessen this habit – and I’m definitely having a hard time. Is it an addiction for me? Heck no. It’s an unconscious habit. I definitely do not look for it.
Even if it’s not an addiction, it takes a conscious effort everytime I speak – to lessen it and change the habit.
There are some habits that lead to impurity. For example, you’re in the habit of looking at tempting and sensual billboards on the road. Or perhaps you’re in the habit of looking at the jogging girls in your neighborhood as you jog behind them. Or perhaps you’re in the habit of working or studying late so as to be left alone at night. Impurity works like a habit.
Impurity fights like an addiction
It is never an easy attempt to break an addiction. Why? Because if you want to break an addiction, you have to stop it completely. Just a little taste of it, and you’re gonna keep the ball rolling again.
Ever got addicted to something? I did. I got addicted to computer games. Big time. Being addicted to something is being enslaved to something – meaning, you’re giving it a god-sized throne in your life.
Impurity will not settle for anything less than that throne. It will fight for it. And once it has gripped you, impurity will keep you coming back for more. That’s natural. It’s human nature.
Habit + Addiction? You’ve gotta be kiddin’ me!
How do you fight addiction? By renewing your mind. Making a decision. Putting your flag down and telling yourself ‘This is as far as I go. I’m letting God take over.’
Letting God take over doesn’t mean you do nothin’. It means you do everything necessary, sacrifice everything necessary, endure every hurt and discomfort necessary to follow God’s will in light of impurity.
And what is His will against it?
“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” – Ephesians 5:3
‘It sucks’ I know. My body is thinking the same. But our Sprit is already shouting “That’s the narrow road! Take it!”
How do you overcome this habit and addiction?
As impurity is a habit, so is purity a habit. Make a decision to break the habit, break the addiction then follow it up with a conscious effort of building up the habit of purity. It’s an uphill climb because purity doesn’t come naturally – it’s not in our nature to live a habit of purity.
Building the habit of purity is like building a sturdy wall. And like all well-built walls, it needs a solid foudnation to make it stand. Your habit of purity needs the power of the Holy Spirit. Building the habit of purity is supernatural.
Breaking the addiction of impurity is supernatural.
“Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God–through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in the sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.” – Romans 7:24-25
Praise be to God that there is a way out through Him!
“For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” – Hebrews 4:12
“I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” – Psalm 119:1
Keep His word in your heart in order for you to live it out. Put your flag down and make a conscious effort of building the habit of purity.
Just to help you out, I’d like you to take a look at the resources in the “Manly Readings” Section on the right hand panel of Actlikeaman.org. I’ve written and compiled those articles just for men of God such as yourself.