Sex Myths we Believe
Let us first look at some sex mythology that Satan has ingrained in our culture.
SEX MYTH 1: You can have sex without consequences.
“Hey I’m having sex and I don’t have AIDS and I’m not pregnant”
“I don’t see any visible consequence when I have sex outside marriage.”
You have to understand that everytime you have sex something happens. There is always a consequence to sex. Every time I have sex with my wife – the consequence is a stronger marriage. This happens because we do it in the boundaries of marriage. Not so with singles. Study shows that people who commit pre-marital sex have a higher probability of divorce or a bad marriage/ sex life after marriage.
Another consequence that is not visible is what you call IMPRINTING. Best-selling author and love coach Mark Gungor explained IMPRINTING as CONNECTING THE CONTEXT WITH THE EXPERIENCE.
That means my first sexual experience would define the context of how I view sex.
Man’s SEX IMPRINT: Those who have their first sexual experience outside of marriage tend to imprint on the lust of illicit sex. Those who have their first sexual experience in the context of marriage tend to imprint on the girl.
The reason so many men wants their wife to act like prostitutes and porn star is because their first sexual experience was either through porn or sex with a prostitute. Other men tend to rape their wives because sex is done in the context of lust. Even if they are married, the wife feels violated because her husband was too rough or too selfish while they are having sex.
Woman’s sex imprint:
When a woman experiences sex without commitment, she soons learn falsely that sex means little to nothing. Why? Because nothing happen as a result. No meaningful result ensued and the guy does not call back. The girl then gets married and they think sex is no big deal that is why they think sex is only their husband wanting to get something from them instead of a shared experience between couples.
So to every single man and woman who are still virgins – word for the day: WAIT!!!! Reward comes to those who wait. I was a virgin when I got married. My only sexual imprint is my wife. The great thing about this is there will never be a comparison when I have sex with her. She was and will always be my only sex partner.
Song 2:7 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.
Dennis, how about me? I’ve been hooked in pornography and have had sex with my partner and we are not married. Can I still have a great sex life?
Of course! Your sexual metabolism might be slower but the imprints could be supernaturally erased. I am not being hyper spiritual or mystical about it – but even the imprints of porn on my mind where erased when I had an encounter with God. I tried recalling the name of the porn stars I google back then and I can’t. Amazing!
If Satan does not want you to have a great sex life, God on the other hand wants and desires for you to have the BEST SEX EVER.
Here is sex myth #2:
You can have sex without intimacy.
Natalie Portman in her new movie with Ashton, No Strings Attached, had a scene where she shouted, “Why can’t we just have sex?”!!!
Because Natalie – you cannot sex without intimacy. Sex is a deeply spiritual and intimate act.
1Cor. 6:16 And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”
Wow – only marriage and sex can unite two people into one.
Sex is short term thrill with long term consequences. Sex can last from 2 minutes to 2 hours. It is a short term act but the consequences would either reward you or haunt you.
For my next blog, we will be looking at the best sex manual ever available on how you can have good sex.
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