Should I allow a non-Christian to court me?
Pastor Dennis, should I allow a non-Christian to court me?
The easy answer is no. Now some would want an explanation why thus the reason for this question.
Most of us Christians tend to think of laws that we live by. Laws are good and it guides us. I have made certain boundaries and standards as a single that I will not court someone of a different faith but it is not because the law says so but because I know that doing so would violate God’s heart.
As a single man/ woman, we first have to settle the main issue of who we are already in Christ. Most compromise or lower their standard because they feel that they are incomplete if they are not pursued, courted or are courting someone. It is the classic “YOU COMPLETE ME” thing that happens in our heart. We are in search of the ONE that might complete us. Some Christians even labeled it as GPC or God’s perfect choice which I think is a myth.
To the one who ask this question, I want to throw back a simple question – are you already complete even if you don’t have a boyfriend/ girlfriend? Do you find your completeness in Christ or do you still think that you need a special someone to complete you.
So the question is not whether I should allow a non-Christian to court me but rather what is my motivation that I would start entertaining suitors?
– is it to feel loved, accepted, adored?
– is it so I could achieve completeness?
– is it because of peer pressure. Everybody is having a relationship while I remain a single?
Many people don’t have lasting relationships when they treat their boyfriend/ girlfriend as their source of joy, happiness, contentment, fulfillment and completeness. Only Christ can do that. Only Christ can play that role.
On the practical side, entertaining someone who is not of the same faith and passion as you have for Christ would create a lot of tension in the relationship.
2 Corinthians 6:14-15
14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[a]? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?