Movie Review: This Means War

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Movie Review: This Means War

Synopsis: Two top CIA operatives wage an epic battle against one another after they discover they are dating the same woman.The movie stars Reese Witherspoon, ChrisPine and Tom Hardy.

Here are some lessons I’ve learned in the movie.

1. Study your spouse. Though Reese was not playing the role of a spouse, a man needs to study his spouse. How we study our spouse before marriage is how we need to study them after getting married.

2. Sex is the ultimate test for compatibility.

Another myth most of us accept as cardinal truth. Reese’s best friend Chelsea Handler advises her friend to go for the ultimate compatibility test – have sex with your date.

I think I don’t need to quote any verse here but we know that the normal way of doing this don’t work anymore. Just look at the marriages and relationships today that is based on a sexual encounter. It doesn’t last long. Sex is reserved for married people. Married people must practice regular sex but I think the world’s standard teaches us the opposite and the result is devastating. More singles are having sex and once they married – their sex life sucks.

Stats also shows that singles who have sex have a higher rate of divorce once they settled. Sex is the best honeymoon gift you can give your wife.

3. Relationships based on ME is not a good foundation for marriage.

Reese had to make a decision on who was the better guy. The movie revolves around how both man can fulfill her. Though it may sound nice in reality it shows how we are at the very core selfish and how everything is about me.

It starts as we are singles: We are looking for someone who accepts us as we are and fulfills our desires, and this creates an unrealistic set of expectations that frustrates both the searchers and the searched for. 

This mindset that a partner needs to complete me has created what we call a ME-MARRIAGE.

How can you serve me? How can you fulfill me? How can you make me happy? How can you complete me? What can you give me? It is about self-fulfillment.

Tim Keller hits the bull eye in his book The Meaning of Marriage, “we believe in the illusion that if we find our one true soul mate, everything wrong with us will be healed; but that makes the lover into God, and no human being can live up to that.”

Reese was trying to look for the perfect man while both man are trying to be the perfect man for Reese. Once marriage is built on that premise then the movie title would be a good way to summarize the upcoming marriage: THIS MEANS WAR!!!

The hardest yet single most important function of being a spouse is we do not live for ourselves but for the other.

Recommendation: 3 of 5 stars.

Rated R13 but will recommend that it be rated R18.

Movie is funny but there are a lot of sexual overtones. Though it is rated 13, I cannot imagine bringing my 13 year old to watch this movie because of the sexuality and the values shown in the movie.