Since my daughters are now 6 and 4 years old, I have been trying to establish a new monthly routine called Daddy Dates. As a dad, we cannot afford not to invest time and energy with our kids. Daddy defines a kid in a different way. I read a book once by John Eldridge entitled You Have What It Takes: What Every Father Needs to Know and he shares how our daughters need to hear from their fathers how beautiful and valuable they are in thousands of creative ways.
Last Monday was my daddy date with Mika. So we watched Beauty and the Beast in the movie house. Mika was so giddy and happy. All the time she was sitting on my lap and asking questions about the movie. During the 1 1/2 hour of the movie I would kiss and hug her and she would enjoy every moment of it. What she didn’t know was that daddy enjoyed it more.
During one of the nights, she was already advanced planning our future date nights. You know that it made an impact in her life.
What Daddy time and dates do to our kids:
1. It communicates that they are priority.
Dates don’t need to be expensive. It just needs to be genuine. It is the carving out of time to be with them that makes it special for them. Wow, Daddy is taking time to go out with me.
2. Daddy is the man.
You don’t want your daughters to date some guy with no plans, dreams and direction. You want someone who I hopefully would be just like you – someone who would love and respect them. Dating them shows them you got to pick a man who would treat you the way daddy treats you.
3. Getting to know them.
Because of our dates I have seen how Alyanna wants to just spend time with me more than anything else and that Mika wants to go home with a gift in her hand. I am understanding in my finite daddy mind that both my girls are so different.