The First Kiss, the Virgin and How I Totally Missed the Point
I grew up being taught about the importance of the first kiss in the altar and the wondergul gift of virginity to my future spouse. On my wedding day – I kissed Thammie for the first time in the lips and lost my virginity in our honeymoon night.
It is a wonderful story and a great testimony to hear. In fact for a few years, I took pride on what I have achieved in my relationship with Thammie when we were still courting. Imagine the achievement I have attained – kissing my wife for the first time in the altar and remaining a virgin till our honeymoon night.
I have shared our story to a lot of young people in the country teaching them to remain virgins because it is the greatest gift you can give to your spouse. I have taught them to reach for that goal – first kiss on the altar and remain virgins. ( Something really nice to reach and aspire for) but I totally miss the point.
Why? Because I focused on the effects. I choose not to share how it was really hard to stay pure and how I was so tempted to sexually compromise. I choose not to share how it would require not a rules and regulation list but to fully rely on the grace of God. I totally forgot to tell them that even if you are still a virgin in your honeymoon night doesn’t mean you have been sexually pure. I totally forgot to tell them that the goal of the first kiss is not the real heart of staying pure and holy and honoring the woman.
The real point of why I choose not to have sex with Thammie and why we had our first kiss in the altar was BECAUSE I wanted to look good and take pride in my achievements.
And if I could go back and relive my single life, the point of why I would choose not to have sex with Thammie and why we had our first kiss in the altar was because she is a daughter of God. Jesus gave up His life for Thammie and Jesus is entrusting her to me. It is a great privilege and a daunting task to treat her with love and respect as Christ loved her and I know I have to totally rely on the grace of God and not my own to even live purity in our relationship.