Is your Partner Annoying You?
Before marriage, opposites attract. After marriages, opposites attack. What was once appealing is now annoying! – Mark Merrill
Things change. Your spouse change. Don’t even dream that thing will stay the same forever. It is a pipe dream. And I think God really designed marriage as a covenant because people change – some for the better and some for the worst.
So what do we do when our spouse annoys us? Mark Merrill gives us some ways we can work it out:
We should remember and appreciate those qualities we first saw in our spouse. We can also share with them that we are in a different season of life where we desire more patience, kindness, or ________________ (fill in the blank). We also need to be willing to work on changing some things in our own behavior to meet the wishes of our spouse at this stage in our relationship.
Please note that the point here is not to create unrealistic expectations for our spouse or them for us. We don’t have the power to change them, nor them us. Also, realize that it may be a long process for the change to take place.
As Thammie and I continue to love each other in spite of the changes I also realized that we need to rely heavily on God’s grace to help us forgive each other and work things out.