On Men Being Cool

Taking Manhood Back

On Men Being Cool

I don’t know about you, but personally I have felt the pressure that culture brings to us men. The pressure that we need to blend in to what society dictates us. The way we dress, the way we talk, the way we do things. Our behavior. Who we look up to, what we listen to. Who we idolize. Idols.

Then while I was reading this paragraph from the book Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller, I suddenly felt like I share the same “theory”- or maybe I am a victim of the same culture that he lives in. He said:

I was wondering the other day, why it is that we turn pop figures into idols? I have a theory, of course. I think we have this need to be cool, that there is this undercurrent in society that says some people are cool and some people aren’t. And it is very, very important that we are cool. So, when we find somebody who is cool on television or on the radio, we associate ourselves with this person to feel valid ourselves. And the problem I have with this is that we rarely know what the person believes whom we are associating ourselves with. The problem with this is that it indicates there is less value in what people believe, what they stand for; it only matters that they are cool. In other words, who cares what I believe about in life, I only care that I am cool. Because in the end, the undercurrent running through the culture is not giving people value based upon what they believe and what they are doing to aid society, the undercurrent is deciding their value based upon whether or not they are cool.

If it struck a certain chord in your heart then maybe you share the same view.

I don’t think being cool is a sin. Don’t be silly. I just think that Jesus didn’t saved us from where we are just to be cool. I think we ought to examine the people we surround ourselves with- and ask ourselves what they believe in. What do I believe in? Am I just going to spend my life trying to be cool?

Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. (Romans 12:2, The Message)

Are we cool?