The Myth of the OPEN RELATIONSHIP
There is now a trend among unmarried couples today called OPEN RELATIONSHIP.
An open relationship is one in which both people agree to get involved in a physical (or emotional) relationship with other people without the act being considered to be infidelity.
MensXP.com wrote on top 5 reasons why people want to go for an OPEN RELATIONSHIP. I’ll share my thoughts about the reasons they gave. (my thoughts are in bold letters)
1. It promises variety.
The biggest benefit is that there will be variety in your life. While you will always have someone to go back home to, you will have the option of going to someone else if you so wish. This variety is good as it prevents boredom and adds a fair amount of spice to life.
Open relationship doesn’t promise variety, it promises lust and self satisfaction rather than love. It is the objectification of sex, where we start believing that sex is just physical and there are no emotional and spiritual aspect to sex.
2. It helps bring couples closer.
Believe it or not, an open relationship just might help bring you closer. The fact that you will be involved with other people will only help you realise the value of your partner and what she brings to the relationship.
This is just horrendous reasoning. How can having multiple partners bring couples closer together. The value of my wife is based upon my love for her and not based upon her performance or any woman’s performance. The reasoning that was given her actually shows how it can bring couples farther away from each other. What if your other girl performs better in bed, encourages you more – then you will realize how invaluable your wife is.
3. It’s a “fantasy.”
Kinky excites everyone! An open relationship helps you live out your kinkiest fantasies. Not many people get to live their romantic fantasies so if you get a chance to live yours, then you shouldn’t shy away from it.
It is a fantasy. True. But a fantasy of a sex crazed man who cannot commit to a relationship. Who is not strong enough to lead his wife and kids. A man who is self seeking. A man who is selfish. A hedonist man whose main pleasure is to pleasure himself without thinking of the other party.
4. It serves up options.
An open relationship will work wonders if you are too young, or either partner is going to spend a long time away because of work/study. This way you have each other to fall back on, as well the liberty to move on in case you meet someone interesting. This setting helps avoid awkwardness and surely prevents cheating. A win-win arrangement for both parties involved.
WHAT!!! An open relationship prevents cheating. Sure, because it is in the premise that cheating is legal. It is a lose-lose situation for both parties involved. It makes a man escape responsibility and leadership. It treats both men and women as sex objects rather than human beings. It is selfish in its motives therefore true love is not involved. It is self-seeking thus the relationship is disposable.
Bottom line: An open relationship is not something everyone can handle. The emotions, demands, and workings of such a relationship are different from what is considered ‘normal’. Make sure that you and your partner are on the same page and that both of you equally wish to be in an open relationship.
Bottom line: An open relationship is not something anybody can handle unless he or she has become callous to how one person feels. It is not normal, it is abnormal. Make sure that you don’t get a partner who would have open relationship as an option. I cannot bear to hear more sob stories of people who were deceived otherwise. Men, let us be men and act like men.