Watched Spiderman last night with Thammie and some friends and got some lessons about manhood that is worth considering.
1. The impact of a father.
The movie centered around the relationship between Peter Parker and his father. Whatever happened to his father and the effects of it in the life of Peter is evident. The movie shows us how boys who grew up without a dad has a profound effect on their future.
Studies back up this claim:
·63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
(Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census)
·90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
·85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes
(Source: Center for Disease Control)
·80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes
(Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978.)
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes
(Source: National Principals Report on the State of High Schools
·75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes
(Source: Rainbows for all God`s Children.)
·70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes
(Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)
·85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home
(Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)
These statistics translate to mean that children from a fatherless home are:
·5 times more likely to commit suicide
·32 times more likely to run away
·20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders
·Boys are 14 times more likely to commit rape
·9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
·10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
·9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution
·20 times more like to end up in prison.
Great thing was that Peter had uncle Ben and his aunt to help him adjust to the realities of the world. Boys are looking for older men to mentor them and train them.
2. A son is looking for Fatherly love and affection.
Peter had an emotional attachment to Dr Conners because of his affiliation with his dad. In a way, Peter wanted to continue what his dad started. I have heard so many men today who would do whatever to please their dad. They want dad to notice and to know.
3. The wounds daddy gives is deeper than we think.
Peter Parker is Spiderman because of his dad, his uncle (who is his 2nd dad). There is a tinge of sadness in the movie in spite of the heroic acts of Spiderman because you know the motivation behind his heroic act were the wounds that was given by his father. In the movie, Peter’s dad was in a way redeemed but you can never erase the effect it had on Peter.
You might be a wounded man today. But healing is never too late for you. Maybe you did not have a good relationship with your dad. He never defined you as a man. Ultimately we find our identity and healing in Christ alone. He paid the price to restore us to how we were created.
Psalm 18:35 35 You give me your shield of victory, and your right hand sustains me; you stoop down to make me great.
God stooped down like a dad and talks to us as His Son. He restored and redeemed us -our manhood. He has given us greatness not because we are heroes but because He is the ultimate hero.