Chase the Girl
Here is from our guest blogger Christian Ongtangco who blogs his thoughts on his site: http://cordof3strands.org
From the time you laid down your intentions of pursuing her. Courting her means chasing her.
Here are just some things you both need to know when it comes to the relationship;
1. The man calls more
When it comes to phone calls, the man should be making most of them. Sure after a while the woman can do this too.
But the man should keep things interesting by making most of the effort. Chasing. I would try to call her just a few minutes before her work time, lunch time and after working hours. If she’s smart, she won’t return every phone call, because if she did, you might start to think she’s too easy to get a hold of.
My chase with Ayi was more exciting because I had no clue If she’ll say yes, and there’s a possibility I thought I might lose.
2. The man defines the relationship
My friend Val wrote a blog about defining your values. I also want to suggest that even if you’re in the season of courtship, men has to lead in defining the relationship’s existence. What’s his purpose? His values? Share his plans.
We know that women love to talk, and they love to define things when men lead cluelessly, women unknowingly take the men’s role of leadership. If she knows this, she’ll let you assess things, and when you think it’s time, you are the one who defines the relationship. You lead her to where next. I believe it has to be part of the chase thing. The woman doesn’t tell the man what’s going to happen next. In short man has to lead her woman.
3. The man gives more
For a woman, affection is largely related to things she gets. It’s not that all women are greedy, It’s just that cards, flowers, chocolates and notes, and even attention mean a lot to a woman. Give her thoughtful things now and then and she’ll feel loved. Overdo it and you’ll look desperate.
One powerful tip I got from my friend, Give gifts when they aren’t expected. Surprise them and don’t be too predictable , that can be boring for them.
As you pursue and chase your woman be reminded that Men were wired Kings, Warriors, Mentors and Friend.