Ang Tunay na Lalaki – Matapang

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Ang Tunay na Lalaki – Matapang

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Ang Tunay na Lalaki – MATAPANG

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When I was growing up, I used to hear my 3 brothers tease each other: “ah, duwag ka pala…para kang di tunay na lalaki!” So it became my definition of a real man – matapang. Gradually, na-associate ko na sa matipuno, macho, at may angas.

Sino nga ba ang tunay na matapang?

A real man is PATIENT.

Ecc 7:8b … and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.

Ang tunay na lalaki marunong magtyaga at magintay sa tamang panahon at sa tamang tao na inilaan ni God para sa kanya.

Usually akala ng mga lalaki, macho sila when they get to have and do something their way. Akala nila pag madiskarte at malakas ang loob, totoong matapang. Liligawan lahat ng chicks sa campus, at ipagyayabang ang dami ng nagging gf.

Pero the real man pala is patient according sa standard ni God. He has the capacity to WAIT for the right time and the right person. Famous facebook status “Love for the right person at the wrong time is wrong.”

Mahirap maghintay ha, hindi biro un. And yes, karaniwan sa mahihirap na task is test of manhood. Kasi if madali lang, hindi sya test. So, a true man waits!

A real man has SELF-CONTROL.

Prov.15:18  A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.

Ang tunay na lalaki marunong magpigil. He knows how to control his temper and lust.

Actually pinsan ng patience itong self-control. I met a guy who I thought was a true man and asked myself “sya na kaya?” He was a Christian, into fitness like me, and yes macho. Let’s hide him in the name of Eric Bana. Okay na sana kaso, you know, he explodes. As in capital X-plode! That time, I became confused. How come this person who claims he loves me could shout at me and call me names when he’s mad? He got mad at basically anything: traffic, time, comment, clothes, etc. He practically hurt me with his words. But it was years ago and I have forgiven him.

Ang self-control hindi lang sa temper, pati sa tawag ng laman.

MattHEW 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Col. 3:5 Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

MATAPANG, marunong magpigil. Hindi biro un, and again, karaniwan sa mahihirap na task is test of manhood. Kasi if madali lang, hindi sya test. So, a true man controls himself!

A real man CAN SAY NO!.

James 4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

Kabaligtaran ito sa sinasabi ng tv commercial “..ang tunay na lalaki hindi umaayaw”. Sa standard ni God, ang tunay at matapang na lalaki marunong umayaw. Karaniwang scenario sa mga barkadahan at inuman. When a man is challenged, he gives in, he proves he is man enough. Akala ko noon, ang matapang na lalaki, marunong uminom at malakas uminom. Peer pressure lang pala un.

Acts 5:29 But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.”

Hindi lang peer pressure ang test of manhood, pati girl pressure. And again, pinsan at kapatid ito ng patience and self-control. A true man will and says no to a girl who likes to be intimate with him outside of marriage.

A real man is WALANG ‘YA!

Phil. 1:20 “…I will no way be ashamed but that with full courage now as always, Christ will be honored in my body whether I live or die.”

You read it right! Ang tunay na lalaki ay walang hiya.

Consistent to my definition, ang totoong matapang ginagamit sa tama ang tapang.

Hindi ito ang tapang na may mottong “My Way”. Kundi ito ung tapang sa pag consult sa will ni God.

Hindi ito ang tapang na sumasabog sa galit. Kundi ito ung tapang na aminin without the strength of God, he is weak.

Hindi ito ang tapang sa pagpapatunay ng sarili sa ibang tao. Kundi ito ung tapang sa pagtupad ng kung anong pleasing kay God.

Ang tunay na lalaki ay talaga ngang A-tapang a-tao!

Ann Cuisia-Lindayag works in IT. She is a sports enthusiast and a fitness buff. She is married and has three kids. You can follow her in twitter:


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