Focus on Building You
Don’t be too hasty in chasing the girl. I see men psyching themselves to get the girl but when you start looking at their personal lives, you would see that they have a lot of work to do to even be attractive to the opposite sex. I’m not saying physical attractiveness but rather personal development.
There is no guarantee that if you prepare yourself, you get the girl but it would really help a gazillion fold to upgrade yourself, be more intellectually stimulating, to be a man with a plan before pursuing a girl. It cannot be all zeal when you are pursuing a girl. There are non negotiable things if you want to marry a decent girl.
So my advice: Focus on building you. Invest in self development and leadership. Build you first.
Proverbs 24:27 Do your planning and prepare your fields before building your house.