How to Practically Lead our Girlfriend as Men
Due to popular demand, Cordof3strands founder and blogger Christian Ongtangco is back with another yet practical and insightful blog on how we can practically lead: He has more on his site http://cordof3strands.org/
Here are practical ways a single woman can do to let a man lead, as well as for men to serve as a reminder.
1. Let him plan and pay for dates.
Now we don’t want to be too legalistic, if there are times we don’t have enough funds/cash, women can share the load. Men are supposed to be the providers. Allow and encourage your man to take charge.
I like bringing food (pasalubong) for Ayi’s parents , even though she kept on telling me I don’t have to. Now, I do it less often because I need to start saving up for our wedding. *wink!
2. Let him set the pace.
In other words, a woman should let the man move the relationship along at a healthy pace (take note healthy pace), unless of course his pace is bullet train speed, then she can tap the brakes and just follow him at a slower pace that he is going. If he’s a good guy, he’ll slow down and wait for her. If not, maybe he wasn’t meant for her anyway.
This also means that MEN must initiate and pursue. NOT the women. If we are not letting men to do it, we are distorting God’s original blueprint for men.
3. Let him get the door.
It may sound like a little thing, or old fashioned, but when a young woman rushes to open the door herself, she takes away something the he could do for her. So woman would do well just to slow down as she approaches a door and let him open it for her. It’s hard to follow when you are the one in front.
-Open the car door for her (on my case, taxi/fx).
-If in the jeepney, men should let the women get in first and be the first to get out to assist her as she gets off.
-Keep her on the side of the road where you can protect her if walking in the streets or highways.
-Bring her home early. It maybe good to set some curfews (the time depends on what you both agreed on).
-Always send her home, not halfway or a ride away if you’re not that sure of her safety on her way home.
-Start a savings account.
-Set clear goals and dreams for you and your future partner.
-Read books, be mentored, keep learning and Improving yourself.
-Grow spiritually. (we can’t expect our women to do this).