The Grass is Greener on the Other Side
…. till you came along.
This is what a married man would think every time he flirts. This girl understands me more than my wife. This girl is more supportive. This girl listens to me. This girl is blah blah blah better than my wife.
Steve Farrar said it best in his book Point Man:
“The problem is simply this: When you leave your wife to commit adultery with another woman, you take yourself with you. And you are the biggest problem, I am my biggest problem, and you are yours. You are walking into this new relationship with the same personality, strengths, and weaknesses you have in your current marriage. And if you can’t work out things with your current wife, what makes you think it will be any different with another woman? You are a major part of the problem, and unfortunately, you must take yourself along with you.”
In short, the satisfaction you think you can get from the other woman – you really can’t get because the problem is not a marriage problem but a personal problem.
More on this topic tomorrow……