I received a personal message last week about a common question a lot of men and women are asking when it comes to marriage – What if he/ she turns out bad after we say I do? What do I do now? Should I continue or stop the relationship? Should I choose to love or just stop loving?
In the Philippines, we often hear people say “Takot na ako masaktan, takot na akong umibig ulit” (I am afraid to get hurt again, I am afraid to love.) So what is the option. I would let C.S. Lewis give us the alternative if we choose not to love.
Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully, round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket – safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken, it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. ( taken from the book The Four Loves (Harvest Book)