Let me start of with my background, I’m a single man, at 30 years old, never had a girlfriend but I dated pretty women (yeah right?). But here are some things a Single Guy thoughts I’d like to share with you:
1. We are tempted sexually every single day.
Everyday as a single man I face a decision to battle against porn and lust (Gumagapang ako literally sa inner desires ko). We are so much exposed through the internet and that stirs up our sexual desires. It also means that we have a hard time not looking at women wearing sexy clothes. So to all women reading this blog I suggest you help us by wearing clothes that are not revealing.
2. I’m already happy as a single man but I would be happier if GOD gives me a wife/ mate.I religiously pray since I was in high school for my future wife yet it frustrates me because I chase women for the purpose of fulfilling my happiness. A distorted desire that is inside me (I’m so naive all this years) that I have to deal and accept that I was too mystical and selfish when it comes to my “LOVE LIFE” that resulted to immature decisions.
For the past 30 years, I can say that women can never fulfill our desires and happiness. It is difficult to find a wife if physical attributes weighs more than character no matter how GODLY or PURE your intentions are. As a man, we need to focus on finding a suitable helpmate rather than a suitable sex mate.
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Proverbs 31:10
As time moves on it is even frustrating and hopeless to look at if we cannot accept ourselves to being complete and happy in JESUS as a single man now. Pursuing women involves wisdom- the right words and right time in laying down your intentions. And wisdom comes from God. God will SHOW us our mate with a noble character that would help us to HOPE, LOVE and PERSEVERE in God.
3. I want to be a billionaire so freaking bad.
The pressure to get rich and the desire to have more money haunts me almost everyday. Our world is so competitive that in order for us to be powerful and influential we need to have money.
Being rich is not a sin but chasing it for the purpose of building confidence, security and doing more for yourself will result to emptiness. Money is just a tool and should not be a master. It is a heart issue that I have to remind myself everyday. In reality, the world will value you with how much money you have but GOD values us more for who we are.
4. What is wrong with me?
At 30, I have asked a lot of questions that has no answers. How come she rejected me? Am I too fat? Why am I still single LORD?!?!?! Why am I still in lack? This questions came directly from my heart, it is a result of insecurities and self-centeredness problems that I blame GOD gave me. I struggled with this because I COMPARED myself to others. I have to accept the fact that God’s love for you and me are the same and he knows what is the best for me.
This experiences have brought me to new levels of maturity (TRYING NOT TO BE NAIVE) and godly perspective in my walk with HIM. I learned to accept the will of GOD in GOOD OR BAD times. (Philippians 4:10-13) I learned to accept myself, my looks, my work because I’m wonderfully and fearfully made. (Psalm 139:14)
I would like to end a quote from the movie MEN OF HONOR.
Two tablespoons of machine oil can contaminate an entire ship’s fresh water supply. – Mr. Pappy
Even if God blesses us as a single man but if our hearts are contaminated with sin we will never live the life God wants for us.