Fathers, we have a crucial role to play in educating our kids. In the book of Proverbs, the chapters usually starts with
My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments, 2 for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you.
MY SON, DO NOT FORGET MY TEACHING…..
We are called to be teachers. We are supposed to embrace the role of the first teacher in the lives of our sons and daughters. Don’t think that we pay a hefty tuition fee to the educational institution that we can already abdicate our role as teachers.
So what are we to teach:
1. The Steadfast Love and Faithfulness of the Lord
3 Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. 4 So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man.
Steadfast means not changing. In whatever season, God’s love never changes. This is key to fatherhood. Whatever happens to our kids, we must always show steadfast, never changing, unending love. That’s how God loves us and if we want to love as Christ loves, then we must love that way.
2. Trust in the Lord. It’s not about you, it’s all about God.
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
The earlier they get this, the better. As they grow older, you want them to first run to God and not to you. God is first option, second option and third option. You are the fourth option.
3. Don’t be proud. You are not the solution, Jesus is.
7 Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. 8 It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.
Don’t think you know it all. Learn from others. Glean from Scripture. Also have the fear of the Lord – in that way you can turn away from evil.
4. It’s not about the money. Give honor where honor is due.
9 Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the first fruits of all your produce; 10 then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine.
Who gives us the ability to produce wealth. Don’t raise up your kids to think they are self made successful people. Give honor to God who brought them to where they are. Don’t teach self reliance, make them rely on Christ.
5. Embrace discipline.
11 My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, 12 for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
A man cannot grow without discipline. Discipline is hard and painful for a moment but the results far outweighs the consequence of no discipline. Show me an athlete who did not experience discipline – maybe there is none. Be open for correction. Create that environment in your family where you give positive feedback and constructive criticism. Let them love the correction. That means correct with love and gentleness knowing we are all a work in progress.
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