13 Keep hold of instruction; do not let go; guard her, for she is your life. 14 Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of the evil. 15 Avoid it; do not go on it; turn away from it and pass on. 16 For they cannot sleep unless they have done wrong; they are robbed of sleep unless they have made someone stumble. 17 For they eat the bread of wickedness and drink the wine of violence. 18 But the path of the righteous is like the light of dawn, which shines brighter and brighter until full day. 19 The way of the wicked is like deep darkness; they do not know over what they stumble.
The problem with choosing to sin – is that it goes downward from there on. I was talking with a guy who had a habit of hitting his wife. He would make it a habit not just to hit his wife but confess and say sorry afterwards. It has been a pattern in their marriage. He said he never thought he would be doing that. In fact, he wasn’t like that but it seems like everything he didn’t want to happen in his marriage is happening.
I warned him of the consequences of his sin and how this needs to stop. A man beating up his wife is a cowardly act. The reason we can beat up our wives is because we think physically we can outfight them. We lord it over them rather than lead them with a tender heart. The problem is once we start hitting our wife and hurting her – is it opens an area in our lives that thinks it’s okay to beat her up because of what she did. What was impossible in the past has happened and there is a tendency for it to be repeated.
And when the beating continues, it makes our heart callous. It seems like every warning from God is not seen as a warning anymore. We cannot even justify the sin we are committing since our wife/ girlfriend is irritating. It’s actually a messed up mind. It has become insensitive to the conviction of the Holy Spirit
So what do I do if I am going that route?
The Bible says go another route. That means repenting. Acknowledging your sin and doing something about it. It is coming before God and surrendering your pride and your relationship to the Lord. It is a 180 degree turn with the help of God. It is deciding to get help if need be professional help. It is finding married men and being accountable to them. It is going back to your wife and look her square in the eye and admitting your foolishness and asking for forgiveness and committing not to hurt her again.
There is hope. Tuck somewhere in Proverbs 4 is the promise:
18 But the path of the righteous is like the light of dawn, which shines brighter and brighter until full day.