3 For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil, 4 but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. 5 Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol; 6 she does not ponder the path of life; her ways wander, and she does not know it.
7 And now, O sons, listen to me, and do not depart from the words of my mouth. 8 Keep your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house, 9 lest you give your honor to others and your years to the merciless, 10 lest strangers take their fill of your strength, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner, 11 and at the end of your life you groan, when your flesh and body are consumed, 12 and you say, “How I hated discipline, and my heart despised reproof. 13 I did not listen to the voice of my teachers or incline my ear to my instructors. 14 I am at the brink of utter ruin in the assembled congregation.”
Men, there are some women we all need to avoid for the sake of your marriage and your life. The book of Proverbs warns us that having a relationship with this women will bring us men to utter ruin. So who are these women?
Simple lang, tawag sa kanila – the other woman ( kabit, mistress, fling, friends with benefits, sex partners)
If there is another woman apart from your spouse where you get your sense of affirmation, think twice. There are women who is good in building up our ego and tell us how good we are as a man, as a boss or as a leader but she has a different agenda. Ingat tayo sa mga ganong babae. Iba ang habol niyan lalo na pag alam niyang may asawa ka!
Madami na akong nakita na lalaki na nasira ang marriage dahil sa office may babaeing nakaka appreciate sa kanya. We start comparing it to our wife na hindi masyado napapansin ang kagwapuhan mo o ang mga ginagawa mo. Pare, eto ang problema mo at kailangan mo isipin. Ang babaeng pinakasalan mo, kilala ka from the inside out. Ang babaeng kalandian mo, ginagawa niya yan para mahulog ka sa kanya or vice versa. Pag kayo na, magiging kabit mo siya at tapos hindi ka na rin niya gagalangin. Maggagamitan lang kayo. Paano ka gagalangin, eh di mo nga ma accept yung responsibilidad mo sa asawa at pamilya mo. Duwag ka nga at mahina ang puso….
Misis, tip lang. Be his number one fan. Dapat may kultura sa bahay na you appreciate one another and compliment each other. Mas masarap din umuwi sa asawang nakikita ang mga hirap na ginagawa ni mister. Same with the husband, appreciate your wife also.
Proverbs said that this women’s path go down to hell. Ibig sabihin pag pumatol ka sa ganitong klaseng babae buhay mo magiging impyerno and honestly I think you deserve it. That is why Proverbs warns us that go as far away from her. Huwag mong itext, i-fb message, i chat or makihalobiro. Pag nakita mo siya, go the other direction. Dapat may whatever it takes attitude ka.
As a pastor, madami din akong temptation. Hindi porket ministers kami walang temptation. I have to be sensitive sa Holy Spirit and careful with my interaction with other women. My wife and I have guidelines on how to treat the opposite sex. Bakit? Kasi alam namin we can fall on this area if we dont guard it. Grace talaga ni Lord dahil mahirap pero kailangan iwasan.
The stakes are high. It’s a choice between a short term thrill relationship versus the family that I love and the marriage I am building. Sa papel walang kalaban laban ang other woman, sana sa totoong buhay din. Choose wisely.
Here is the command God gives to avoid adultery:
15 Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. 16 Should your springs be scattered abroad,
streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you. 18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, 19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. 20 Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress? 21 For a man’s ways are before the eyes of the Lord, and he ponders all his paths. 22 The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him, and he is held fast in the cords of his sin. 23 He dies for lack of discipline, and because of his great folly he is led astray.