It’s that time of year where Filipinos are packing a stadium to see half naked men and women flaunt their bodies with just their private underwear. It is quite ironic that you have a full fashion show to feature a clothing that is meant to be private. Add to that are the sexually provocative humongous billboards in EDSA that features ladies in their lingerie and provocative pose for all the world to see. Calculate the number of kids who pass by Edsa every day and be bombarded with images that without debate would be only appropriate for adults ( and I’m using appropriately loosely in this context). This is not a blog to ask people to boycott a certain product, but rather to make us think of the implication of what we allow in our nation.
So let me lay down some naked truth about this subject:
NAKED TRUTH #1: It’s never about marketing private wears – it’s marketing sex. This leads to the moral crisis of our nation.
Let’s face it sex sells. When I blogged about the movie THE MISTRESS, one of the contentions made was that sex and adultery themes sells. It is sad that we as a nation in general feed on our hunger for sex rather than suppress it for the greater good. So what producers are saying is to throw our sexual morality in the trash because we are all about the money. We don’t care about your family – this sells. With about $1 billion in annual revenues, the Philippines is tied at No. 8 with Canada and Taiwan for the largest revenues from pornography in 2006.
Study has shown how porn (soft and hardcore) destroys our brains and destroys our culture. The images of sex and sexy girls in their private wears has a connection to the ongoing cases of rape, women abuse and crimes in Metro Manila.
Anti-pornography activist, Gail Dines, notes that young men who become addicted to porn, “neglect their schoolwork, spend huge amounts of money they don’t have, become isolated from others, and often suffer depression.” (Pornland, 93). Dr. William Struthers, who has a PhD in biopsychology from the University of Illinois at Chicago, confirms some of these and adds more, finding that men who use porn become controlling, highly introverted, have high anxiety, narcissistic, curious, have low self-esteem, depressed, dissociative, distractible (Wired for Intimacy, 64-65). Ironically, while viewing porn creates momentary intensely pleasurable experiences, it ends up leading to several negative lingering psychological experiences.
Naomi Wolf writes in her article, “The Porn Myth,”
After all, pornography works in the most basic of ways on the brain: It is Pavlovian. An orgasm is one of the biggest reinforcers imaginable. If you associate orgasm with your wife, a kiss, a scent, a body, that is what, over time, will turn you on; if you open your focus to an endless stream of ever-more-transgressive images of cybersex slaves, that is what it will take to turn you on. The ubiquity of sexual images does not free eros but dilutes it.
NAKED TRUTH #2: Women are not objects to lust upon, they are to be loved. Same goes with the men who are being lust upon.
The implication of such shows and ads is that women are to be lusted upon. I think this are issues that both Christian groups and women’s group needs to be fighting for. It affects a generation of girls who would grow up being exposed to sensuality when they can’t handle it. It is sad because most of the ads you see highlights not the private wear but the body and the sensuality of women.
Pamela Paul, in her book Pornified, quoting the research of one psychologist who has researched pornography at Texas A&M, writes,
‘Softcore pornography has a very negative effect on men as well. The problem with softcore pornography is that it’s voyeurism teaches men to view women as objects rather than to be in relationships with women as human beings.’ According to Brooks, pornography gives men the false impression that sex and pleasure are entirely divorced from relationships. In other words, pornography is inherently self-centered–something a man does by himself, for himself–by using another woman as the means to pleasure, as yet another product to consume (80).
Paul references one experiment that revealed a rather shocking further effect of porn: “men and women who were exposed to large amounts of pornography were significantly less likely to want daughters than those who had none. Who would want their own little girl to be treated that way?” (80).
- By inundating girls and women with the message that their most worthy attribute is their sexual hotness and crowding out other messages, pop culture is grooming them just like an individual perpetrator would. It is slowly chipping away at their self-esteem, stripping them of a sense of themselves as whole human beings, and providing them with an identity that emphasizes sex and de-emphasizes every other human attribute (Pornland, 118).
quotes taken from: http://theresurgence.com/2011/11/19/7-negative-effects-of-porn
NAKED TRUTH #3: We have lost a sense of decency as a nation with the influx of more liberal stand on sexuality, gender roles and our view of sex in general and we need to do something about it if we love our kids and the next generation.
The reason sleazy billboards are still up is because we are buying the idea that it is okay to have women flaunt their bodies and expose themselves. It communicates to us that sex is easy, accessible, and lusting can be a past time for everyone. We now have a growing sexual trend among younger people that indulges in sexting, online porn, friends with benefits. The institution of marriage have been attacked and to take a stand on what marriage should be as defined by our constitution is to be a hater and a moral bigot. There is a push for government to fund the distribution of condoms rather than funding abstinence programs. We are using the people’s hard earned money to train people to be sexually active and careful rather than teach them the value of purity and delayed gratification. Where are we going as a nation?
During A CNN interview Dines was asked about the effect of porn in society and here is what she said:
GAIL DINES: Well, what I’m concerned about is that the level of brutality and cruelness, in pornography’s affecting the way that men think about women, and it’s affecting the way they think about themselves and the way they construct ideas about sexuality. Because the more men view pornography, the more they begin to think like the pornographic world. And I speak to many women- and men indeed- and what the women tell me is that many of their boyfriends want to play out porn sex on their bodies.
There’s a study out- in 2003- by the Matrimonial Lawyers Association, that found approximately 56 percent of divorce cases involve one party in the marriage who has an obsessive interest in pornographic websites. That’s a huge number and to say that we are living in a new era is as close to saying that “heck with the stats of rape, sex trafficking, women violence and divorce. It’s a free world and I can do what I want.” It is pure selfishness and narcissism.
See more at: http://newsbusters.org/blogs/matthew-balan/2010/07/28/cnn-highlights-pornographys-destructive-effects-society#sthash.nL1OwOgA.dpuf
A great site to visit to see the effect of PORN: THE NEW DRUG