Meet My MEN-tors

Taking Manhood Back

Meet My MEN-tors

 Matthew 28:19-20 19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”


10636127_10152756630730358_7775031216325517284_nMen, whether we like it or not, God designed us to be mentors–not tormentors. The heart of a mentor is a teaching heart.

Have you heard the saying, “like father, like son”? Well in a lot of ways that is so true. Even we as sons, who once vowed never to be like our dads because they did not follow God’s blueprint for manhood, do have a tendency to end up exactly like them.

One of my first mentors was Ferdie Cabiling. Pastor Ferdie was one of the coolest youth pastors. I grew up in a very traditional church where drums and long hair were frowned upon. When I first met Pastor Ferdie, he was sporting long hair and was actually into loud music. I said, “This can’t be. Christians don’t play drums, and he listens to loud music!” But what interested me about Pastor Ferdie was his father’s heart to teach, disciple, and mentor the next generation. Ferdie took time every week to visit me in school or at home and was really insistent in making a godly man out of me. Ferdie taught me how to wake up and read my Bible. Yes… how to wake up. A lot of people don’t struggle to read the Bible, they struggle in waking up early to read the Bible. He taught me how to speak and preach, and he taught me how to be a gentleman.

I remember the time we were going to ride a bus. I was about to get on when he got my attention and told me to stay put. I asked why, and he pointed out to me that there were women in line, and men let women get on first. Ferdie taught me how to treat women right, how to live a pure and holy life, how to save my virginity for my wife, and how to live a life that matters. I am where I am today because of Pastor Ferdie. Today I am blessed to work alongside him, reaching out to the next generation of men and teaching them about biblical manhood. How about you? Do you have a Ferdie in your life? Take some time to list some men that you respect, and ask them if you could have a chat over some coffee, or even ask them to help you with some areas in your life that you have trouble with when it comes to being a man. It is worth the time and investment.

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