I am currently reading the book The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts by Shannon Ethridge and would try to write down my thoughts and lessons I would get from this book. The book Fantasy Fallacy was written in response to the 50 Shades of Grey Phenomena that has hit America and even the Philippines. We have heard single men and women to mothers who found the book fascinating and sexually stimulating raved about the book. Honestly, I haven’t read the book and have no intention to do so. I have no plan of watching the movie as well because after watching the trailer I knew it would be adding trash to my mind.
Stephen Arterburn in his foreword of the book said something interesting and alarming:
No man can create a sexual experience that parallels those in the books. No man can be viewed as adequate when compared to the erotic excitement found in these novels. The fantasy world that a woman enters will leave her very dissatisfied with the reality of her man and her marriage. The deeper into her fantasy world she goes, the more difficult it will be to experience sexual gratification in a real relationship, where the husband does not excite and stimulate with every move he makes or word he says. This kind of fantasy robs reality of any ability to satisfy.
To summarize 50 Shades – it is about a sex practice called BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism and masochism). Yep, I know how could a book that has BDSM as a content sold 10 million copies in six weeks time. It is porn in its purest form. It is disheartening to see a 21 year old woman give up her virginity, in less than a week, to a guy who wants her to be part of his BDSM for his pleasure. It makes women feel like they are trash. It makes them feel like they can change a sexual masochist by giving in to his pleasure. It is twisted and sad.
The movie is coming out in a few days. I do hope we would be wise and sensitive and not condone movies that would treat women as such. There is so much trash out there already, let’s not waste our precious money on movies and novels like 50 Shades of Grey.