Song of Solomon 1:5-6 New Living Translation (NLT)
5 I am dark but beautiful, O women of Jerusalem— dark as the tents of Kedar, dark as the curtains of Solomon’s tents. 6 Don’t stare at me because I am dark— the sun has darkened my skin. My brothers were angry with me; they forced me to care for their vineyards, so I couldn’t care for myself—my own vineyard.
The girl in the Song of Solomon had some insecurity issues because she was dark. She knew she was beautiful but she was dark because of hard labor working in the vineyards. She had no time to go to the parlor and beautify herself.
But if there was one thing we notice with the woman in this verse is that she was vulnerable to her man. She knew that she wasn’t beautiful according to the standards she was living in. But if there was something the man did in the book of Song of Songs is that he loved her insecurities away.
I talked about our wife is our standard of beauty in another blog and that was what the man did to his beloved. He loved her insecurities away. He found her beautiful and loved her in spite of what she feels. You see our standard of beauty is not what the world tells us is beautiful. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
I thank God for Thammie who loved me in spite of my insecurities. When I was young, I was teased for having thick eyebrows and no eyes. In high school, they call me the jukebox king because they said that all they need to do is drop a peso in my eye-slot and I would sing. I had no eyes that people thought my eyes were part of my eyebrow. The worst thing was only our Cadet Officer who was really old found my eye brows attractive. Everybody laughed at how I look.
Then Thammie came along. She actually found my eyebrows hot! It was awesome! Somebody saw the potential of my eyebrows! In Tagalog – I call it my kilay look ( as supposed to killer look).
She loved my insecurities away. She in fact shampoos and conditions my eyebrows once in a while. Seriously, she went pass the physical and look at things that are far more important – character, integrity, faith and heart.
Looks are overrated. So next time your girlfriend, fiancee or wife feels insecure about something, love her insecurities away!