Son Needs Dad

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Son Needs Dad

2 Samuel 14

21 Then the king said to Joab, “Behold now, I grant this; go, bring back the young man Absalom. 

23 So Joab arose and went toGeshur and brought Absalom to Jerusalem. 24 And the king said, “Let him dwell apart in his own house; he is not to come into my presence.” So Absalom lived apart in his own house and did not come into the king’s presence.

25 Now in all Israel there was no one so much to be praised for his handsome appearance as Absalom. From the sole of his foot to the crown of his head there was no blemish in him.26 And when he cut the hair of his head (for at the end of every year he used to cut it; when it was heavy on him, he cut it), he weighed the hair of his head, two hundred shekels by the king’s weight. 27 There were born to Absalom three sons, and one daughter whose name was Tamar. She was a beautiful woman.

28 So Absalom lived two full years in Jerusalem, without coming into the king’s presence.29 Then Absalom sent for Joab, to send him to the king, but Joab would not come to him. And he sent a second time, but Joab would not come. 30 Then he said to his servants, “See, Joab’s field is next to mine, and he has barley there; go and set it on fire.” So Absalom’s servants set the field on fire. 31 Then Joab arose and went to Absalom at his house and said to him, “Why have your servants set my field on fire?” 32 Absalom answered Joab, “Behold, I sent word to you, ‘Come here, that I may send you to the king, to ask, “Why have I come from Geshur? It would be better for me to be there still.” Now therefore let me go into the presence of the king, and if there is guilt in me, let him put me to death.’” 33 Then Joab went to the king and told him, and he summoned Absalom. So he came to the king and bowed himself on his face to the ground before the king, and the king kissed Absalom.

Here is the background of this intriguing story.

absalomDavid had a son named Absalom. Absalom was banished from the presence of his father David because Absalom killed one of David’s son, Amnon, from another mother after Amnon raped Absalom’s sister Tamar.

Fast forward,  Absalom was send back to Jerusalem to live in one of King David’s house but for years he never saw his father. Absalom at this time was also a father of four kids. He had his own family but he was wanting to see his own father. Imagine the torture of knowing your dad is just in the neighborhood and you can’t see him. Absalom was longing for the attention of a father. He even went and set Joab’s field on fire so he can tell Joab – “I want to see my dad!”

To the fathers reading this blog, I hope this story is a reminder of how our sons long for us. They are looking for us, wanting to spend time with us, wanting our presence and our affirmation. Men, whether we like it or not we get our idea of manhood from our dads.

Absalom had it all, almost. He was handsome, influential and of royal bloodline but one thing he lacked. The thing that haunted him and in my personal opinion, made him rebellious – the presence of his father.