I am currently going through the book Mansfield’s Book of Manly Men: An Utterly Invigorating Guide to Being Your Most Masculine Self of Stephen Mansfield with my men’s group in church every week. It has been a very interesting discussion with a group of men that consists of business people, campus missionaries, a building contractor, an actor and a web designer who are in different walks of life. Some are married, some are single, some have grandkids while others have teenage kids and others with toddlers and babies. But what is interesting is that no matter where we are in our stages of life – the lessons of manhood resonates for each one of us.
So I’ll be starting a 4 blog series on the four Mansfield’s Manhood Maxims.
Christian life is action: not a speculating, not a debating, but a doing. One thing, and only one, in this world has eternity stamped upon it. Feelings pass; resolves and thoughts pass; opinions change. What you have done lasts — lasts in you. Through ages, through eternity, what you have done for Christ, that, and only that, you are. – Frederick W. Robertson (1816-1853), from Sermons Preached at Trinity Chapel, Brighton, v.III (1859)
To start the ball rolling in this blog series, let me just remind every man reading this that to do man things is something that is expected of a man. You don’t boast about it – we are expected to do it. To be a one woman man, to be faithful to our spouse, to take care of our kids, to work and provide – those are things that we don’t boast about. Those are things men do – it comes naturally to us.
According to Jun Gomez, one of our leaders in church:
Huwag mo ipagyabang na iisa lang ang asawa mo at loyal ka. Na you are a good provider to your family. That you are a loving father. That you work hard in the office and at home. That you practice your faith in God. All these should be the “norm” of every man and there is nothing significant by being one. Ika nga eh “DAPAT LANG”. Kaya lang kapansin-pansin ang mga traits na ganito is because society has lost manly values.
So how do we go back to these normal standards? By God’s mercy and grace to help us be the man God created us to be.
So let me share MANHOOD MAXIM #1: MANLY MEN DO MANLY THINGS
Stephen Mansfield wrote:
Manliness, in my view is about doing. It does;t matter what you look like. I’m neither put off by nor in awe of the physical. I’ve known great men who are three and half feet tall. I know an awe-inspiring man who has no arms or legs. I’ve known powerful and dynamic men who looked like women from a distance. I’ve known immoral men who had testosterone to spare. It is the doing, the deeds, the actions that make a male a man.
True manhood comes from doing manly deeds. It is the mastery of a body of behaviors.
Action is character. Manhood is action.
I think the more talk, the less action. I think the more drama, the less manhood. I also believe that the more talk, the more complex and unattainable manhood starts to seem to most men, particularly since the average man doesn’t need that many words to begin with – on any subject.
Manhood is in the doing.
My take home: A man has to do what a man has to do!