Assume the Best
Here is a life maxim that has helped me when there are lies, gossips and bad done to people or to me. Always assume the best.
Our natural tendency when someone does something to us is to assume the worst. When somebody did something that didn’t seem right, we tend to judge the motive negatively rather than assume that he has the best intention or that he or she is not that kind of a person.
Assuming the best means I would give him the benefit of the doubt.
Let me give you some example:
When rumors spread about someone we sometimes tend to agree with the one spreading the rumor. But like any other rumor – many are hearsay or went through the gossip vine. It means the story has changed, characters were added and motives were assumed. This is how gossip spreads. What seem like a harmless story would later characterize a specific person. That is why we always tell people to get both sides of the story.
Assuming the best is coming from a stand point that he/she is not that kind of person you are characterizing him/her to be.
Assuming the best is not spreading unfounded stories or lies.
Assuming the best means not even bothering to listen to stories that has nothing to do with you. I’m too busy to spread something that is not even worth spreading because it is not true.
Now just in case there is truth to the story being told, assuming the best means not spreading the story to people not involved or could do nothing about it and confronting the person involved to find a viable solution.
Assuming the best also means being ready to forgive and give the person a second chance to learn his lesson because everybody commits mistake and sins.
Assuming the best means God is not done with me yet. I am a work in progress.
Imagine what a wonderful world it would be when people assume the best.